Defining the Dark Feminine Demeanor Part 1

Focus: Posture, Presence & Focus

The Dark Feminine is a revered as a woman who can hold the room with her presence. Her quiet confidence and mystery like aura makes it that all women and men are drawn to her. They want to know more about her and yet she does not make it too easy to win her trust. She is kind but she is not at all trying to please anyone. They are simply pleased on their own in her presence.

In this article, I will review all the observed traits of a woman that is naturally channeling her Dark Feminine Energy in her environment.

Deliberate Posture

She plays close attention to the way she stands and how she sits. She keeps her shoulders back, her head up and her chest up. This displays an elegant confident demeanor that says “I am proud of the woman I am.”

**British Actress Rhona Mitra standing with good posture and exuding dark feminine energy from the way she is dressed to her soft makeup, as well as her hair that frames her shoulders and face.**

She does not slouch. If you feel that you slouch, check for a neck hump by running two fingers down the back of your neck and see if it stops before reaching your back (I know it’s insane to realize that we can develop one from pro-longed usage of phones and bad sitting posture). You most likely do slouch and I would recommend these “neck hump” videos to help you with your posture. Practicing these during your workout routine is great in between your sets. Or you can do it after your morning/evening walk as part of your wellness ritual.

Here is one I really like: 15 min Stretch to Fix Your Posture (Look Fitter, Taller and Reduce Pain) by Emi Wong

There’s an ease in how she sits-relaxed and confident in her allure.

She keeps her gaze slightly interested, her shoulders relaxed and her body comfortable in a feminine stance/position.

When sitting down, she may sit cross legged while sitting and slightly lean in when you speak to her. Her mannerisms are very calm and controlled. There is no anxious fidgeting, there is no uncomfortable movement of fixing one’s attire. She’s already wearing clothes that suit her body and add to her charm.

She has her hair done in either sleek ponytail or tamed in a low bun. Or perhaps just middle parted and put behind her ears. There is no frizzy hair or unkept look here that she has to constantly adjust. She does not jump around or get up for others if they are perhaps late comers to a meeting. She simply sits and leans back slightly into the chair, maybe her hands over her wrists. She may be fully engaged in what is happening or if it does not particularly interest her/pertain to her she may take out her agenda/diary and write some notes on what she would be doing later.

Commanding Presence

When she walks into a room, she is not apologetic nor is she sheepish. Her gait is controlled and each step is relaxed as she walks towards her destination. She does not lean forward and make a hurried step when walking. She instead keeps her shoulders down and walks up straight leading with her hips slightly.

She makes eye contact when she speaks and makes a natural effort to make the individual she is speaking to feel special. She will have a seductive charming way about how she jokes, and connects with individuals.

Since she does not overshare her life nor does she overexplain, a simple humorous remark from her makes the other person feel elated. They feel like they shared a private moment together.

Authenticity, subtle confidence and a charming connecting statement brings about exclusivity to the Dark Feminine. It leaves others wanting more of those experiences since their senses received just a slight ping.

Workshop: How you can practice your presence

I love this video from this Former FBI agent who surprisingly speaks really well on how to come across more confident in non-verbal way. Click below to watch. He really shows how you can practice being confident which translates into your dark feminine aura.

Video: Body Language Expert Explains How to Show Confidence | WIRED

Focused Not Clouded with Insecurities

She is not looking around the room and sizing anyone up or down. She also isn’t too indulgent of herself by admiring herself in the mirror or posing of some sort. She does not care to.

She is mostly concerned with her space, her time and where her energy is going to. She only puts out energy that goes along with her pace and she does not try to match or overpower anyone else’s speech or energy.

She shows up for herself regardless if others are perturbed or disturbed by it.

This means she is not comparing herself to others in the gym. She is not looking at people in a conference room, evaluating their appearance or conversations. She is most definitely not intimidated by the presence of another beautiful woman in her presence/or partners presence.

She is delighted to see beauty in others whilst still knowing the beauty in her.

She is calm and centered. She does not want to be bothered with trivial things like gossip and petty competition. She knows her value and is no competition with others.

She stays engaged and intentional with the activity or task at hand. Because as stated once before, she is not trying to please others just for validation. She does not need the validation, because she knows she is a confident versatile woman who will continue to pour into herself.

Overall the dark feminine woman is very tuned into herself and she is very much aware of herself in any given environment. She walks and moves with grace and a strong sense of self.