In order to understand the essence of the Dark Feminine Aesthetic, I’m going to talk about the traits of the bougainvillea flowering vine found in warm climates. The Bougainvillea vine flower is radiant in color, thorny in it’s stem, and resilient in it’s growth. It does not require much care, just the occasional watering and some sun. It mostly would like to be left alone and not fussed over too much. It’s a very independent flowering vine that blossoms and grows fairly rapidly if it is not cut back.
And so, this would be the perfect flowering vine plant to represent the dark feminine energy and its vibrance. Handle the flower with care when you do approach it or else you will be pricked by its thorns–much like the dark feminine. This will be the start of a series on how to cultivate yourself like a bougainvillea.
Keep reading below if you would like to know how to embody the dark feminine (bougainvillea flower-like essence) in your everyday dresswear aesthetic.
Shopping Collection Sites for the Dark Feminine:
To build your dark feminine wardrobe, the goal is to find clothing that is beautiful, alluring, and accentuates the feminine body in a sensual way with classy elements. You are looking for some skin but too much skin because you want to provide the essence of mystery and class.
Dark Feminine Style Dresses/Websites
1.Lulus (10% discount for Military, Students, Healthcare)
Lulus Va Va Voom Black Backless Long Sleeve Midi Dress has a curve-hugging stretch that really frames your body and has an ultra deep V in the back to show off your sexy back! The dark feminine attracts in this dress because she is confident and knowing of how sensual she looks in this dress paired with a simple gold earrings.
Below is bit more conservative option from Lulu’s
LUSH A La Mode Black Midi Dress is a classic dress up or dress down look!
The criss-crossing straps at the back with the fitted waist that drops to a flowy midi skirt gives such a sensual yet modest look. You can wear to this to the Farmers Market, to a night of salsa dancing, to an evening dinner. It’s iconic and never goes out of style!
2. Olivia Mark
This Off the Shoulder Dress from Olivia Mark is absolutely killer with the thigh high slit and the off the shoulders look framing your neck and bodice. This would be best paired with either a choker necklace like the woman is wearing and dark stone some studs. You can also wear mid-long earrings that frame your face and no necklace.
For a more casual dressed down look, see below!
This is the perfect casual black dress for running errands and still being able to style it with a classic pieces of jewelry. It allows you to channel your dark feminine energy even when casually going about your day!
I would put my hair back in a slicked pony tail with some hoops for this outfit! The bangles definitely work too. It’s a very clean look. The makeup and the jewelry makes this outfit more chic.
3. Baltic Born
Cassandra Tulle Maxi Dress is a beautiful dark blue and burgundy flowy tulle dress that when the sleeves are brought down the shoulders, it gives us a sensual dark femme vibe. Paired with light necklace and this dress is definitely a charming addition to your closet.
With a sweetheart peasant neckline with ruffle and faux tie at center bust, this lovely Cadence Midi dark spice hued dress is perfect for the sultry yet casual look. I can definitely picture the dark femme in this with a café au lait, brown hued sunglasses, with a big brimmed hat sitting outside enjoying her own presence in the sun.
This Janette Midi emerald green dress really knows how to hug your hips, accentuate your bodice, and fall on your hips in a flowy liberating manner. This dress allows you to feel dark and feminine while giving you the uninhibited confidence to strut without feeling any sort of doubt.
You can feel like the force of a woman that you are in this dress.
4. Pretty Little Thing
This Dark Chocolate Floral Frilly Ruched Dress is definitely a bit more on the sexier side. It has a warm seductive look. This is definitely the dress you wear when you want to be noticed! You can wear this for a night of dancing with the guy you like. It sends the message that I am soft but I also very much in aware of my sexual allure!
The Allure of Hats
You can flirt with a fan in your hand. You can flirt holding a cigarette, too. But a woman can really flirt with a hat. - Dolores Foster
There’s nothing that says class, confident and charm then a nice brimmed hat on a woman. The right hat can really make her regal and seemingly more put together.
It conveys the notion, I’m a woman who has my life together and I enjoy the finer things in life so don’t waste my time with your boyish antics.
Evening Hats for the Dark Feminine
The Carmen Sun Diego Black Hat from Lulus is a soft felted wool wide brim floppy hat.
Wearing this hat will definitely bring out the mysterious charm in you. “Who’s that beautiful woman with that dark hat?” Not many women wear hats anymore with their dresses. So it sets you apart and makes you someone everyone is intrigued by. It adds a dark elegance to your look.
For the dark femme with a western wild child flair this onyx studded McGraw Black Hat is a staple piece! It is sure to spark conversation and spice up her confidence and her night. The hat dictates the outfit here, from the cowboy boots to the necklace to the dress and we love that dark energy playfulness!
Day Wear Hats for the Dark Feminine
Sometimes you’re looking for a lighter colored hat with a dark bow that would fare perfectly in a vineyard wine tasting. Here are some hat products that fit that bill.
This beautiful rounded straw See You Again Again bucket hat with a black grosgrain ribbon at the floppy brim is perfect for a day out in the garden, the vineyard, the beach or just a leisure stroll around town on a sunny Sunday.
The Lulus Feel the Wind Ivory Straw Boater Hat is perfect weekend hat for the dark feminine. The woven straw has a classic boater silhouette with a dipped crown and a wide brim. Paired the right flowy summery attire and this light hat can be playful with beach tussled or wet wavy hair.
The Dark Feminine Aesthetic Overall
As long as YOU feel comfortable and can move in a way that allows you to feel sensual and freeing, then you have understood what it means to dress like the Dark Feminine. It all comes down to unstoppable confidence that you are looking to cultivate. And how you see yourself in the mirror and feel in clothing really helps you to start repainting yourself with the energy of the beautiful resilient Bougainvillea Woman.
