The single most important aspect of radiating feminine energy in a new relationship, is to filter out any overly reliant or needing type behavior. It will block your free flowing feminine charm and allure if you are in constant want of him. Your charm can only be natural if you are comfortable and confident with who you are, because men feed off of your energy. They take queues directly and subtly from you.
This new man is not THE source of your fulfillment or happiness. He is a potential partner that you can SHARE your life’s joys and take on challenges with.
If you feel that is the case however, spend some time in calm solitude to understand the greater depths within you. Seek and evaluate if your life is fulfilling as it is. One must have a fulfilling life and sense of self already in place (hobbies, charity work passion projects) so you don’t readily drop it all for a man you are still vetting for quality.
He cannot and should not be your only peace. Because it is important to realize that he may not have even found his own stability and peace yet, so how can he be yours?
If you would instead like to simply get to know this man, and allow your feminine energy to naturally radiate and flow, then please read below for how to manifest that. A lot of the contributions were provided by well mannered, charismatic men of value.
Manifesting the Feminine From Within: Male’s Point of View
1. Do not be so available: Make your time valuable and worthwhile for yourself.
It is very important to not be so available that you curate your entire life around this man. Continue to cultivate your interests and pursuits without interruption. He is to be fitted into your life, not become the “sun” of your entire system. Ensure you are crafting a day that excites you (even without him!). If it doesn’t then you will be prone to falling into the habit of making him the only joy in your life. The man will be less inclined to ask you on a date if you are always so ready to see him.
Read here if you’d like help in crafting a day and tapping into your dark feminine energy. The Dark Feminine Daily Routine
There is no build up or sense of longing because no natural healthy distance was created.
2. Give him the space to step into his Masculine Energy.
By allowing your man the space to express his true self, you are allowing him to show you his best version of himself. In certain situations, allowing him to lead may be the best way for him to (intentionally/unintentionally) show you who he really is. You must provide him the proving ground to either thrive or fail.
Let him choose the date, create the setting, and just let him surprise you.
See what happens when you provide him the distance—let him reach out back to you and see what he has mind for seeing you.
3. Nurture Yourself, Not His Ego
Do not incessantly text him even if you want to. Give enough space and read the energy.
Ensure that you have time for yourself. The last thing that you want to do is give the perception that you do not have stuff going on in your life. He will start to dismiss your messages or prolong the response because he knows when he does text you back, you will be quick on the take to respond. Still do your favorite hobbies, cook for yourself, spend time with your pets, call your friends and talk about the latest news or documentary you’ve seen. The MOST important thing you must remember is that life is not about seeking constant pleasure dopamine hits, it’s about feeling content and at peace with your life. If you don’t have that you will inherently become co-dependent on the man for some semblance of happiness. So make sure you have a good grasp of yourself so you don’t become easily lost.
Please be mindful that care should be given to not be too aloof and distant. You are not playing a cat and mouse game. You are simply engaging in conversation with someone who you are first considering if they can even be a trustworthy friend.
And whenever you feel anxiety or a sudden rush to simply drop everything for him, stop for 30 seconds, think about the source of that impulsive or obsessive feeling and work on assuaging your anxiety by exploring it. You can like him, but you still have yet to truly understand and know him. Write about why you are so quick to wanting him, record your feelings or start a nurturing task (planting, reading, dancing) to help you rid of that anxious feeling. Is it your loneliness guiding you in your actions or is it true feelings.
You should only message him back with calmness in your heart, not an anxiety or hyper excited feeling or fear of “losing his interest”.
4. Sensual, not always Sexual Demeanor
You can be feminine and alluring without having to be overtly sexual.
You want to be able to wear clothes and makeup that accentuate the beauty you already have. Your goal is not to present yourself in too much of a sexual way that immediately puts the “physical” ideas in the man’s mind. You want to wear something modest but fits your form nicely so you can show your curves but not the entire package. You want to be seductive in your elegance, not tasteless and overly sexualized. Think about the action you want to garner from the man.
You want to exhibit sensual allure but just enough for him to be curious to learn more.
5. Carry yourself with Grace and Poise (Appearance & Vernacular).
Speaking eloquently and ensure that your appearance is on point. This should always rank high on your priorities as men tend to be visually focused and will appreciate your efforts. The goal is to make sure you made an effort with your hair, you have a nice clean outfit that falls on your body well and just good hygiene coupled with a sweet smelling (not overpowering) perfume for that additional feminine charm.
Take your time when you speak with him, do not overshare so quickly. Perhaps you are quirky and high energy. That is fine but once again, allow the other person to speak and listen intently. You will be remembered from how you make others feel. And men just like women like to be heard. So speak with intent, speak slowly, ask questions that encourage good long-lasting conversations.
Check this article out for a list of questions you can ask him when dating (scroll all the way down). Feminine Revival Series: Is he a High Value Man or Misguide Man?
6. Respect yourself and body and he will follow in line.
By highlighting your strengths, limiting who has access to your mind & body and creating healthy space, you are allowing an air of mystique to surround you. This allows for the man to step in and show himself to you. He sees you as a woman who respects her time and body, so he takes you more seriously and realizes you are not to be taken for granted.
You train the man essentially on how to treat you. If you don’t respect yourself, why would he?
