The Dark Feminine Energy Awakening
I’m going to dive into some essential everyday habits, you can incorporate in your life, to activate your dark feminine awakening. A dark feminine awakening does not just happen overnight. It takes a series of atomic habits, attitude shifts and behavior adjustments to get to that point. As with everything, change takes time. But with consistency, you can tap into the dark feminine inside when you need it most.
“Healthy dark feminine energy leads from the heart, is open and accepting but is not afraid to speak up when boundaries are crossed and heals old wounds by removing what is holding us back.”
Corey Casey
www.Medium.com
Why We Need the Dark Feminine
Too often women may feel that they are easily walked over. They are not taken seriously when they speak. They are too apologetic. Ready to laugh when someone makes a joke to fill the silence. Allow disrespectful behavior by simply brushing it off. Or vent to their close ones looking for empathy and validation of their emotions; instead of just correcting it on the spot or taking the person aside to address it.
The goal is to get out of the victim mindset and embrace the dark feminine power that lays dormant within. The time is to find your voice and make it stronger within; making “her” hard to ignore. Activating your dark feminine lets you quiet the doubts in your head, cultivate yourself more, be selfish without apology, and thrive in any environment.
Daily Habits for Dark Feminine Awakening
1. Be Private
Share your progress and journey with your inner trusted circle. But do not broadcast yourself to everyone. Allow yourself to revel in your daily life moments and put the phone down. Not everyone needs to “relate” or “be motivated” by you.
Your prerogative is to find your own contentment. You are responsible for your own validation and support. Explore your attachment style if you find yourself having trouble validating yourself. Attachment theory can reveal a lot about our need for validation, co-dependency and emotional regulation.
2. Non-Negotiable Self Care
This looks like taking care of your inner and external well being. Make time for the things that make you feel whole and calm.
This could be making your favorite smoothie mix, or chai latte. This could be listening to your favorite music and working on something creative in your calm corner. This could also be doing a face mask and listening to terrible stand-up comedy.
It’s just deciding to put yourself first and the rest of the world can wait.
You can read more about what a Daily Routine for your Dark Feminine looks like in this article here.
Calm Corner: An area of your home meant for creative work and unwinding. This could be a space where you cultivate a hobby; a passion project of some sorts that connects you with yourself.
This Dark Feminine Calm Corner can have airy white sheets with dark indoor plants, moody grayish walls and minimalist art work.
3. Wear the Appeal, Be the Confidence
Your dark feminine is an aesthetic as well. What you see is how you feel. So look the part to truly show up as her.
How to Show Up as the Dark Feminine
Wear your hair in a way that allows it to flow and frame your face. Look up hairstyles, hair colors and lengths to accentuate your face structure—bring out the most seductive appealing look.
Try some makeup tutorials to create an eye look that works for your eye shape and color. Go to Sephora and get some suggestions from the makeup artists. Have fun with it! Browse the web and social media to get some inspiration on dark feminine aesthetic looks. Figure out what works for you and your body to awaken the dark feminine in you.
4. Speak Slowly and Only with Intention
When you limit gossip, runaway banter and interjecting in conversations, you start to truly see the people around you. You create space to find confidence in your silence.
You are not required to fill the space with chatter to make others feel comfortable. You can go off to the side and enjoy yourself or just listen to others chatter about around you.
You do things only because YOU want to. Not to put a show on for anyone else. Not to accommodate for someone else’s ego. You speak only because you desire it.
When you speak only with intention, you can evaluate if what you’re thinking adds value to you or the group.
- Does this really need to be said or do I wish to just say it to garner some sort of attention?
- Is this attention some sort of cry for validation?
- Am I trying to prove myself to those around me?
Realize you don’t need to be the hyperactive participant, or the comic relief to be liked.
You just have to speak slowly with a few impactful words. You can further explain yourself for those who request it. It is not your prerogative to delve too deep in your personal matters though and overshare unnecessarily.
It’s really not anyone’s business to know you unless you deem it so.
Each word holding weight.
5. Pencil Yourself in First. Don’t Cancel on Your Dates.
Prioritize your growth and development by ensuring you are reaching your needs. How does the dark feminine do this? She creates space for herself.
She ensures her goals are being met by blocking time off for the routines that build towards it.
She realizes her commitments to herself are of the utmost importance. They are not to be discarded because someone else called her up to see what she is up to.
She does not keep tentative plans in the hopes someone will call her. She makes meaningful plans with herself and does not cancel. She values her time too much and does not like it to be squandered on the whims of others.
Others Have to Work for the Attention of the Dark Feminine
She has a fondness for herself that others follow pursuit. She is not readily available.
Men especially have to schedule time ahead to speak and meet with her. She stays busy and has a robust life where she is divulging into exploits, adventures and projects that she finds fulfilling.
So, is she really going to raise her gaze at someone who is showing up with the bare minimum? With low sporadic effort? With last minute communication? No.
She quickly forgets about him. She focuses entirely on herself and continues to invest in her most prized possession. Herself. Someone that truly peaks her interest is going to have work to get her attention, not with a boyish “U up” text.
More Resources on the Channeling the Dark Feminine
I you want to read more about the Dark Feminine, you can find articles regarding her below.
Daily Routine for Entering Your Villain Era: A full sample routine and a systematic how-to guide to create your own as the dark feminine.
The Dark Feminine Interpersonal Dynamic: 5 things the Dark Feminine does when she is interacting and speaking with others.
Defining the Dark Feminine Demeanor Part 1: A guide of the unspoken traits and mannerisms of the Dark Feminine. What you sense about her before she even speaks.
